ATMA: You Find The One

(Photo courtesy: The Princess and the Frog)

PUCKER UP!

We search and search and search and seemingly kiss frog after frog trying to find the one that turns into your prince, well for the sake of MY story, she's a princess. But what happens when you get frustrated and start to believe that your "one" is just a figment of your imagination?  That's easy to believe when thus far the world has been full of toads for you.

I mean - you put yourself out there and you are said to be the fastest, the smartest, and a sure favor to win the race (because you've got all the good stuff) - yet you either beat yourself or lose your competitive spirit somehow continuously settling for second, third, fourth or fifth best.  But you know you're better!!

I'm here to tell you that you have to dust yourself off, reapply your lip gloss and keep trying. WARNING! Don't try to trick yourself into believing that a toad is a princess.  A toad is a toad.  You can tell yourself until you're blue in the face that they will change... but guess what, down the line all you'll end up with is disappointment and warts.  I don't know about you, but I'm not about that life!

BE READY!
Even though you pray and remain positive and believe that you will find "the one" - you can't really prepare yourself for the feeling that comes with it.  It's like being smacked in the face with a happy sock, doused in sugar and spun around in circles.  You're smiling, and sweetness is dripping from your lips, and you're off balance as hell (or as Beyonce would say, "Drunk in Love").  It feels so good you have to ask yourself if you deserve it.  F that... of course you do!  But are you ready for the responsibility that comes with the REAL.  Everyone wants something real, but are you willing to look at yourself bare bones and be all that someone else needs.  Will you compromise, will you listen, will you put them first, will you let go of the past to build a future, will you be willing to let go and fall in love no matter what?  Well...will you?  It's difficult to answer YES to all of those unless you've found the right one for you.  Because for me... the answer is emphatically YES, unequivocally YES, unabashedly YES and unfiltered YES.  That's when you know you're ready.  So are you?

HOW YOU KNOW SHE'S PERFECT FOR YOU...


When you can talk on the phone for 6 hours straight and still have stuff to talk about, so you do it again the next day!  When you see her face and immediately smile and your insides tingle.  When her voice soothes your nerve endings and creates a calm inside you that no one ever has before. When you trust yourself to be completely yourself with her and she does the same with you.  When it's physically uncomfortable to be away from her too long...so you move mountains to be with her. When she's the last voice you hear at night and the first one in the morning.  When it's effortless from the gate and it organically blossoms without pretense or confusion. When she just is.  Day after day and night after night... she just is.

BUT REALLY HOW DO YOU KNOW?

When you pray for her before you pray for yourself.  When her goals and dreams become a part of your future and vice versa - so the plan becomes how are WE going to make this happen?  And for those basic mathematicians...when the sum of the parts is not greater than the whole. When together you're better.  Period.  And you want nothing but to hold her close to your heart for as long as you can.

   

That's a good looking couple right there. 

So what do you do after the morning after you find the one?  You thank God, the Universe, Allah, Buddha or whoever you thank that they saw fit to bless you with such happiness.  And you put in the effort to make it last.  This is not something you play around with!  You have to work everyday to be a better you - be the you that you are destined to be - and be that you with them.  Because without them, you can't possibly be your best.

Happy Valentine's Day to all you lovers out there!!

Stay with me!